How can siblings divide a parent's belongings fairly without fighting?

Start by following the will or any written wishes, and make sure the executor or administrator agrees with the plan, since that person has legal responsibility, and the rules vary by state. If there are no instructions, agree on the process before anyone picks a single item. Families fight far less over a fair process than over who grabbed what first.

A common approach is a rotation draft: siblings draw numbers and take turns choosing one item at a time, often reversing the order each round. Some families use an inventory with photos so siblings who live far away can take part. For valuable pieces, an appraisal lets the family count each item's value toward that person's share, so someone who takes the dining room furniture or a diamond ring receives less of the cash.

Talk openly about sentimental items, which often matter more than expensive ones. Write down what each person takes. If things get stuck, a neutral third party, such as an estate attorney or mediator, can help keep the peace.